Happy, Healthy You – No Thank You
I have mentioned in previous blogs the life changing freedom of setting healthy boundaries; which includes being able to say the powerful two letter word, NO. Of course, you can say it very politely. LOL. But no means no. I have personally learned the value of this word. Interestingly, I first had to learn to say yes. Yes to my needs. I’ve lived most of my life saying yes to everyone one else without much thought or intent. So much so, that I lost a part of me. It makes sense then that saying yes to myself was not as easy as it sounded. I had to get reacquainted with myself first. I was reminded of that Julia Roberts movie where she didn’t really know if she likes her eggs, scrambled or over easy. For me, it was, do I even like eggs? My primary identity for years was first and foremost as a devoted wife and mother. I wish I would have known then what I know now. I would tell my younger self, if you take the time to listen to your needs (and get them met), it will make you an even better wife, friend, sister and mother. Before I go on, please know I am fully aware there are some things in life we cannot possibly say no to. Having said that, my intent in writing this blog is to hopefully help someone see the value of how saying no thank you can be in direct relation to achieving their weight loss goals.
It is not as obvious as it sounds. You may be thinking, “I know I have to say no to overindulging in certain foods, duh.” Yes, that is true. But what I am explaining goes way deeper than that. One of my favorite books that made the biggest impact on my life was Fearless Living by Rhonda Britten. She says, “people only walk on you if you allow them to. The power is in your court. If you want to be more assertive, practice saying one key word — “NO.” Are you putting yourself last? Bottom line is, for decades, I was more comfortable being a caretaker for others than for myself. I was helped by her book to be compassionately accountable for this fact. I was choosing to automatically say yes to everyone and every commitment of my time out there. One of the things that helped to make a lasting shift to a healthier life is when I took the time to fiercely guard my time (and calendar) like my life depended on it. It can be really challenging at first. You might find that making time for you that your self love will grow. I began to practice self nurturing behaviors, rather than self destructive ones. Regular meal prep in the kitchen became an act of love for myself. Learning to cook in a healthier manner was a way to nourish my soul, and my body. Same goes with the time I committed to my walks to the park or going to the gym for my favorite Zumba class. I learned how to do what I call extreme mothering for myself, instead of always mothering everyone else.
I hope this helps you have a happier, healthier you, as you learn to say no thank you.
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